I was an avid Cosby show watcher as a child. I felt a kinship with the Huxtables, and wanted to spend holidays with Rudy so we could sing along to our favorite 50’s radio songs, and eat delicious foods off the kitchen bar counter top.
I remember reading once that Bill Cosby would often place a pillow on his lap before ever letting a child sit there, in order to create a safety barrier of comfort. “How considerate,” I thought, once I realized the intricacies of men and their laps. This knowledge made me like Bill Cosby even more, because I considered him a compassionate and soulful man who relished the innocence and vulnerability of children.
To be honest, I don’t really recall the 2005 accusations of rape against Bill Cosby. I don’t know if it was because I was too caught up in my world to pay attention, or if there simply wasn’t enough mention of this situation in the news of the small, sleepy, Costa Rican village I was living in at the time.
The past week has completely shattered my innocence regarding Mr. Cosby– which unfortunately now include Heathcliff Huxtable and the gang. One after the other, women are coming forward to state that Bill Cosby drugged them before engaging in sexual activities without their consent.
This is rape.
And based on the plethora of allegations: this is serial rape.
Granted, these allegations are just resurfacing (although some for the first time) and I do believe in due process for everyone…..but if these allegations are true, then does that mean Bill Cosby is a serial rapist?
The consideration of this is mind blowing, as this was the man who promoted wholesome family values, loving parenting techniques, and yes, the innocence of children.
And I admit, the image of him in this way makes me not want to believe he could be capable of harm to another human being– especially something as repulsive as drugging and raping repeated women over a long span of time.
But I think that is time that we MUST acknowledge the fact that ALL of us contain this polarity within; the light and shadow aspects of ourselves.
Ok, beware. I am about to get woo.
I see our existence as an interplay of energetic frequencies that manifest as thoughts, feelings, actions, skintone, body build, behavior, etc. This means we are walking beings with a shit-ton of disharmonic frequencies emanating from us. It’s why we can laugh while we are crying, or be so happy in one moment, and quickly change to sad in the next. Its how we can be happy for a friend about her new job promotion, while also being jealous and a little afraid of what will happen to us. We are human. We are complex. That is the point.
Recently, our culture has focused a lot on sexual assault, rape, and violence towards women. It has become a more mainstream conversation in the recent years, and this particular year we have seen a huge surge of people coming forward to declare that the rights of the female body are sacred and do not belong to another. We have also seen much resistance to this idea, and a surge of violence against women as a result.
As a collective, we have focused on violence towards women in a variety of ways, all positive and negative. And we each have a plethora of disharmonic frequencies emanating about the subject.
So it makes complete sense that the collective has manifested the current Bill Cosby situation.
Here is America’s father figure, champion of wholesome values and fun, being accused of committing heinous sexual crimes against a multitude of women.
You cannot get more paradox than that.
And I think we manifested it NOW because we need to really gain some resolution and focus on this topic. I mean, hey, Bill is an old man. These allegations are from decades ago…. so why now?
As a collective group of human beings, we NEED to address this type of violence. We need to see how we are creating this type of dynamic. And we need to realize that this type of shadow is inherent in each of us.
And we really, really need to address our shadowy views about rape, violence, and the overt sexualization of the female body. These shadowy, low vibrating beliefs are running the show, so to speak, and will keep resurfacing until we confront them directly.
How we respond to Bill Cosby in this moment is paramount to how we will move forward as humans.
So in that way, Bill is really teaching us a lot by giving himself up as a catalyst of change to the masses.
Don’t hate me– I am in no way validating what he might have done, but I do see the miraculousness of the timing and status. Who better to teach us about what we are capable of than the man who taught us that very thing each week as a child (and again in syndication)?
The blaring lesson I see here is this: why do we have such disparate frequencies about violence in any kind– but specifically violence against women? Why do we think it is okay to harm another in any way, be it sexually, physically, or emotionally? Why is it okay to make public policies regarding women’s bodies?
Why are some aspects of violence abbhored, why others are deemed “necessary for the good of the many”?
My thought is this:
If Bill Cosby is a rapist, then we all are in some way.
My question is: So what are we going to do to change that?